When you your life partner is taken from you, no matter how slow or quick the process, it is like your very heart and soul being taken from you. The emptiness, the loneliness, the inability to focus. It isn't about grief of another it is about losing something of your very being.
We have been asked to pray for Sue who has lost her Jan:-
O' God who knows the pain of loss, the anguish of despair. We hold Sue in our thoughts and prayers, knowing that we cannot do or say anything that will relieve her loss so we pray that however she needs us we will be there for her and her needs, that we may respond with loving care when we are called upon. AMEN